Married Life

Top Ten Reasons I love my husband:
1. He loves to snuggle, especially when he is tired.
2. His love for me stems directly from his love for Jesus Christ, and while it's not perfect it's beautiful.
3. He takes me as I am, and is patient with me when I do not fit his expectations of how life ought to be.
4. He makes killer popcorn (even if he did leave the pot with the oil still in it on the still warm burner... stupid electric stove).
5. He respects my wishes.
6. He isn't afraid to stand up to me, and he always flirts back.
7. He loves listening to me read to him... right now it's Cloud of Sparrows
8. Even when I feel like I am failing, he sees me as wonderful and beautiful (but not perfect as he likes to remind me.)
9. He is a total dork, and it's totally adorable, and often makes me laugh.
10. He washes the dishes every day, even on the days when I don't hold up my end of the bargain and cook.


I remember the day we got married oh so long ago... ok a month ago. I remember how I felt. I was scared, and worried, and nervous, maybe a little panicked. And then I remember seeing him waiting for me at the end of the aisle, and all of that went away, because I knew who I was marrying and I knew that this was the man that God had chosen for me. I admit that I cried my way down that aisle, clinging to my dad for support. And then after the ceremony and after the reception, when it was just the two of us, I forgot once again what we were together, and I became nervous. It wasn't until we got to our bed and breakfast after dinner and he was being a total dork, that I remembered that I didn't have to be nervous... And now, a month later, I remember that girl and I feel totally different from her. The nervousness, the fear, they have been replaced with security and comfort. A knowledge that God has a plan for our lives together, and that Ben desires that end as much as I, has caused me to write ridiculously long sappy run-ons.

So many people have asked me what married life is like. This is what I have decided to say... "Married life is like regular life, but with somebody." It's not my life anymore, it's our life, and like all lives it's messy and imperfect and exciting and sad and happy and funny and irritating and exhilarating and a million other words. And I get to share all of that with him. For better or for worse... whether he likes it or not.

The good news is... He does like it.